Wedding Woes

Let me just preface this post by saying: Beware!  Major vent session ahead.  Please turn back if you're looking for fluffy, lovey wedding details. 

Okay, now that that's out of the way, onward and upward we go.  When I've seen a lot of women get engaged, the wedding consumes them.  Every moment of every day is filled with thoughts of centerpieces, day-of makeup, vows, and RSVP cards.  Many of these brides-to-be can't have a full conversation without it coming back to their wedding because it's what they spend most of their time thinking about.  Here's a big confession:  I'm not one of those women.

Let's be honest here.  As much as I am so so so happy to be marrying my best friend, I am so over this wedding!  Well, no, not really the wedding.  Just talking about the wedding.  Don't get me wrong, I am having a great time planning this wedding and doing all the details.  I'm a detail person so I really, truly am loving it all.  But, everywhere I turn, everyone I see, the first thing they ask me about when they see me is the wedding! 

"How are the wedding plans coming?"

"What wedding stuff have you been working on?"

"Any wedding updates?"

And yes, believe it or not:

"What's your menu going to be?" 

Ughh..  I know that I probably sound completely ungrateful here and a little ridiculous as you are currently reading a blog all about my wedding.  I know that people care about me and that's why they want to know all the nitty gritty details and I'm having a lot of fun blogging about everything and telling you all what our plans are.  But I have to be honest and say, I am most thankful when I see someone who I haven't seen in awhile and the first words out of their mouth are "So, how are you doing?" or "How are things going in your life?"  I have so much more going on in my life than this wedding and, as much as I love every one of these people who have asked me the aforementioned questions, I am so thankful for the few minutes I have with people where I can talk about the ridiculous amount of work I have to do before leaving for this conference, about the issues I've been having with this guy at work, or about the time I came home from work and my lovely, well-behaved cat unraveled an entire ball of yarn throughout my entire apartment.  After the conversation about these other parts of my life, then I feel like wedding details will inevitably come out.  I'm just wishing that people asked about me first, wedding second. 

I know, I know.  You'll all tell me that these people are just excited for me and want to share in my happiness.  But, the wedding is just a day.  It's a wonderful thing and it's going to be an awesome party, but it's just a day.  I want these people who care about me to ask about my wonderful fiance.  About how we met or how he proposed.  What kinds of things we like to do together and what things are in our future together.  Because the wedding is just an outward symbol of the two of us joining these details together for life.

At the end of the day, I'll continue to answer these same questions over and over with a smile on my face because I love the people who are asking the questions.  But I just had to get this off my chest.  I love my fiance more than anything and I can't wait for October 15th to come.  But until that day, I welcome the conversations that are about anything but.